[you say that like ardyn knows the difference?]

Oh, just... [Another careful pause, but the elaboration was heartfelt and sincere:]

I know someone who is as sharp as steel and twice as unyielding. Most often think him cold or difficult, and he always had few friends--while there may be considerable truth to that, behind it all he is a deeply devoted person. So when I see your insistent need to see the others protected even at risk to yourself....I don't know, I suppose you make me think of that person at his best.